Chapter 15 of ? (what’s real?)
I think we ought to follow that Sundays are a day of rest and worship, but that’s rare! Now and then, we get to go to the Cafeteria in town after services, but usually it means cookin’ and cleanin!’ Sometimes I think Dad has to make up for lost Grace during the week, so we have to go twice on Sunday! I say that with a smile, because he’s been in a pretty good mood this week – and I take every blessing I can get!
The preacher and the Mrs. are coming for dinner that’s got to be ready by one o’clock. They visit a lot of families on Sundays after church. Mom’s already got the beef roast in the oven. Dad and the kids just left for church, so it’s just Mom and me – finally. We need to talk about my so-called date.
Mom says, “Get that pan of potatoes; we have a lot to peel.” Sitting down at the table with carrots, onions and okra, she added, “Well, how did the date go?”
“Well, sorta good and sorta not good. Oh, everything’s alright, it just wasn’t exactly as I expected. So, here’s what happened.”
“Well, what was bad about that?” Sally frowned a tad.
“Mom … would you believe that guy asked me if I would think about marrying him? Is he crazy, or what?” Sally started to snicker and caught herself after a second thought. Jane might get the wrong impression.
“Sorry, honey, that’s the exact same thing that happened to me when I was only fifteen! Only, I decided to kiss him, and suddenly he was trying to think of an excuse to get me to the back seat of his car!”
“Let me understand this … he was lying and trying to make me believe him? I knew it didn’t make sense. It would be dumb to fall in love with somebody when they won’t even kiss you! Yuk.”
“Jane, never fall in love, it’s not real. There’s true love, and then there’s sex – they are not guaranteed to happen at the same time.”
“You’re thinking to fall in love means you’ll feel all mushy and excited – the guy truly loves you with all his heart – will always want to be nice to you – you’ll get married and you both will enjoy passionate sex in a relationship that lasts forever. Maybe you’ll have children. Right?
“But, Mom, does that ever happen?” Things are just hard to hear, but I know she’s right.
“Yes, it does, but not between children.” She looks at me for a moment, giving it time to sink in.
So … now I know, this falling in love thing is basically crap. I bet I recognize the next liar!
“Don’t worry about it, Jane; nothing says you have to have anything at all to do with him. You were doing your friend a favor by going in the first place. Look at the experience this way, you got a new pretty dress – you got out of the house for awhile to watch a good move – had a few laughs – a free burger – and you got home safely. Dating is supposed to be fun; it’s you that sets the rules of what fun is. Remember that and you’ll do just fine.”
“Let’s get this food in pots on the stove. I’m going to take a quick bath then make biscuits; I boiled the tea already.”
Standing here watching the pots begin to boil, I’m thinking about what it is that’s real. Moms are real, babies are real, cooking … is real.